| | My husband, John and I are birthparents of a now 22yr old daughter. We were extremely lucky to have a semi open adoption since her birth that has been completely open since she was 17. All of our lives (including her adoptive parents) have been enriched by this openness. I have also worked in the field of adoption for many years promoting openness in adoption here in Maine since 1992. I have yet to meet a birthparent of a closed adoption who doesn’t wish they had more openness! I have heard of some that do not want contact for their own very complicated reasons. However, in all these cases it has been my professional opinion that the desire not to have contact stems from fear, grief and shame imposed upon them by the trauma of a closed adoption and the pain of carrying a secret for so many years. If contact were finally permitted I am confident that with guidance these women would finally be able to begin to heal. Do not listen to those who would try to convince you that LD1805 is a vote against women! It is just the OPPISITE and in addition it is a vote against the oppressive, archaic and inhumane practice of closed adoption and those who would wish to protect this institution of lies and shame. I regret that I have been unable to attend any judiciary workshop up to this point. |